Saturday, 31 March 2012

Letting The Dust Settle



My month has been full off plaster dust due to my home finally getting the much needed attention it deserves. My stress levels have been up and down with a few choice words swopped between myself and my husband. The past couple of weeks my husband has resorted to sleeping on the sofa whilst my young daughter sleeps with me. Her bedroom is getting a fresh coat of plaster and alterations. Hopefully all will be complete very soon with some normality/routine.

The new self help breast cancer group which involves setting up various activities (i.e. yoga, art, theatre day outs) I am already facing problems with. On my first private meeting I had mentioned a friend who was looking for a volunteer position to gain experience within such a group. My friend is doing a masters in this field of work and it would of been ideal. I spoke about it in detail with the BC nurse and if I could introduce her to my friend at the next meeting.  
I understand the formalities of setting up community groups I was trained to setup those very groups, but what happened was unforgivable/embarrassing for myself and my friend.
As someone who has worked as a youth worker/activity leader for sixteen years I understand the importance of volunteers within a group to make it work, but it seems what this group wants and what the group needs is right now in the hands of one individual with a upper crust accent or should I say Mrs Bouquet, but Mrs Bucket in real life.
This is why I have personally decided that this group is not for me. I explained to my friend that she was not to worry and she can use it as experience. The breast nurse said she would speak to me in private later, but she will be in for a big shock, after all it was for my friend to speak to her and get advice not what took place. Thank fully the group comprised of four breast cancer patients including myself, one BC nurse and a patient cancer advocate guest who was also shocked at what occurred. It seems I am not the only one who feels this group is not for them because the previous week it comprised of seventeen women and advisors. I was under the impression the group was an activity group which would need regular volunteers so people who attend can concentrate on an activity rather than minor details. I must of miss read the small print..... opps what small print...

Monday, 5 March 2012

John Carter UK Premiere & Keeping Busy

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I and Sophia had the good fortune of going to another premiere and watching the movie ’John Carter' before anyone else in the UK. I would encourage people to see this movie as it is child friendly even though it is a 12A. Andrew Stanton (Director) I think was impressed with Sophia and the fact she had the loudest voice at the premiere. He approached Sophia asking who she was with and I replied she was with me. In return he fished out two tickets for her to walk the red carpet. Only ten minutes before she was asking when she could see the movie, so the look on her face and the scream of glee was priceless.

Although some folk might find our new hobby pretty sad, to me it is building Sophia’s confidence up. The fact she is slowly realising she can actually talk to people that normally she would not have access too is brillant. My young daughter will not have a picture taken with celebs, and I do not encourage her either. Many of the A-listers Sophia has met have asked her if she would like a picture, but she is happy just to have a squiggle and I make that clear to the celebs. Her collection which begun because of the cancer bubble is a who’s who and even I am surprised. My daughter has managed to walk the red carpet of three big premieres, and that I know would not have happened if I had not got breast cancer. Whether people agree or not cancer personally woke me up, and made me realise I was letting opportunities slip by due to fear of being judged.

Meantime I have been busy writing a movie script myself. It is about greed, lust, love and ignorance. Time period 600ad when England was Mercia and Northumbria etc. You had Anglo-Saxons tribes fighting amongst themselves whilst the Vikings were raiding the coast lines. It has me excited because it has a twist which I cannot mention. I just hope I can work out how to get it on film.

As well as the writing I have got involved with a project my oncologist and breast cancer nurse are organising, a Self help group for breast cancer patients. The fact I have done a course in setting up community projects back in 2001 means I’m in my comfort zone. I have even designed a logo, so the group has a visual to work with until one is designed by the group.